Understanding Psychology
Before you start to raise an eyebrow and speculate whether I’m interested in Psychology, you have somewhat formed an impression just by me naming the topic as ‘Understanding Psychology’. I’ve ever wondered how it would be like to study Psychology, but I guess basic understanding of the human minds, needs no concrete studying. Noel, who’s presently balancing slavery and Psychological Studies [read: He’s majoring in Psychology], once told me that at times the topics that I talk about, is somewhat related to his studies. Just that my thoughts were raw, with no flamboyant jargons, and can’t be sorted into theories, such as Freudian’s. Then I’ll cheekily say back, “See! I also can come up with something like that what, no need to pay to study Psychology!” Of course, that being said, what everyone knows about living things [humans, animals, plants, etc] is just the tip of the iceberg. The intrinsic values of Psychology can be found in every living being, and with much exploration, you can do more than you ever thought.
I am capable of profound and deep thoughts, just that my child-like behaviour does not reflect what goes on in my thought daily. I prefer to call this, ‘Flexibility’. :p After all, I know this is me, something I’ll remain as when I reach my 60-year-old mark.
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I was conversing with my colleague [Yes, you, Shiliang, if you’re reading this] yesterday, about our perception of the same person. She told me, “I can finally understand what you said about X!”. These were not her exact words and tone, but yeah, it was somewhere close. The ‘X’ in question here, is someone we both know, albeit me knowing the person earlier than Shiliang (SL).
So sometimes I’ll pour my ‘woes’ to SL over MSN, and shei’ll remain neutral. It was only recently that she got to know ‘X’ more, and somehow her perception of ‘X’, was something that she could relate to mine.
I’m a person who does not take my friends’ words for it, when they disparage a new, mutual friend. I believe that’s their perception of that person, and whatever experiences they had with that person, remains as theirs, not mine. Sure, I’ll take their words of caution and advice, but when it comes to making friends, I’ll like to start new, not with a clouded perception of someone.
Dar is someone who behaves like that too, and he chose to be with me despite people instilling thoughts that I’m a bad girlfriend. ***** Coming back to the topic, I realize that somehow, you are not what you eat / talk / wear / etc. You are who you are, because you’re formed by people’s perceptions of you, during their experiences with you. Of course, that’s just the face value, but more often than not, a person is shaped by what people think of him. If an innocent person was thought to be evil by 99% of the members of Earth, then can he seriously remain innocent? I doubt.
That’s how someone tend to click with a certain group, and not others. It’s the way of life.
***** People also get assessment from different people on various aspects. You may be a good colleague, but a bad boss. A good friend, but a bad colleague. A good sibling, but a bad friend. A good husband, but a bad boyfriend. You get the drift. So in a way, no one is exactly pure in terms of personality. We change, because of environment, values, peer pressure, etc. And change is the only constant! We’re all a cocktail of different personalities. Hmm, I think I’m drifting away from my point. There’s just so much to find out about one another. Right, let me get back to work and leave early to croon for my KTV session later. Muwahaha.
